Strike while the iron is hot.
Men have an unwritten rule: after a first date, wait three days before you call. That supposedly creates more interest, going off the old adage "absence makes the heart grow fonder".
Well, if that heart is still on the market, you're just wasting time and losing chances.
Women HATE the three-day rule. These days, we aren't just sitting around waiting for you to honor us with your presence: most women report that if he doesn't make contact within 24 hours, her interest goes down abruptly.
Case in point: after our (beautiful, perfect, romantic) first date, my now-husband waited a grand total of 12 hours before sending me a lovely text message asking to see me again.
If you're interested, buddy, don't wait. Don't waste time. A single dating woman usually has several irons in the fire ... and they may be hotter than you. You want her? Go get her. When you take your sweet time to call, we automatically assume the following:
* You're after a bigger, better deal
* All you want is sex
* We are your second (or third) choice
* You're just leading us on
* You're taking us for granted
* You think you can do better
When I was single, had a first date, and didn't hear from him within 2 days, I was very likely to ignore him when he finally DID call. For guys who waited 3+ days, I didn't even consider picking up. Am I a picky bitch? Uh, YEAH. Welcome to reality. A confidant, attractive, sexy, talented woman isn't going to sit around by the phone: we'll move on faster than you can dial our number.
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